Normalizing and redefining"Self- expression" in today's world.

    

   The urge in me to emphasize on self expression is getting wild so why not talk about it, as far as self expression involves expression of one's feelings, thoughts, or ideas, especially in writing, art, music, or dance, it's also far more than how we communicate what we think and feel, but not being able to express ourselves fully can have a negative impact on our mental health and well-being. Now obviously people say sometimes its better if some people don't express themselves due to the fact that some people tend to misuse/take advantage of the opportunity given and start to project something inappropriate, these will be addressed another day, but still i feel like if you are having issues with being able to express yourself, you can talk to someone you are close to about your thoughts, opinions and how you feel then probably you will gain confidence to share and no its not compulsory you say everything in your head like your discoveries etc. But if you feel those thoughts could be helpful to someone else, why are you scared to share them? 

*NOTE*: these doesn't mean you start talking anyhow or say things that shouldn't be said due to self expression there are limits to everything you do or say.

  I was talking to someone recently and the person shared their opinions on certain things that made sense that most people aren't even aware of and i seriously wondered why the person was scared to share because these facts were very educating and inspiring and i realized that apart from the choice of not wanting to share, it was due to the fact that in today's world we have allowed selected listening take place in most part of our life, we should be open to listening to other people's opinions, ideas and solutions, who knows? those opinions might be very useful to you. There's a difference between listening to them and applying what you actually heard, not every information applies to you doesn't mean you should shut anyone down for trying to express themselves and doesn't mean you should say what shouldn't be said.We actually need to normalize self expression and yes, self expression is not restricted to just your thoughts, ideas or feelings, it could be art, writing music whatever, if you know that those thoughts or feelings could be very useful to someone, please share them without fear and never let anyone belittle you or try to shut you down for no reason, now when it comes to your opinion of other peoples life and you are not the appropriate person, please don't share because sometimes you can hurt someone else's feelings and claim you are expressing yourself.Try to understand when your opinions are needed and will be valued without making a fool of someone else.Self-expression offers a way of deciding who we want to connect and belong with. We know that in order for our self-expression to grow, to be able to build positive connections and relationships, we need an environment where our true authentic self and self-expression can be validated when i mean validated i mean properly expressed. You can research more ways to deal with self expression, when you should express yourself and how you should express yourself, i won't be diving into that aspect. i just wanted to address the fact that we have tilted towards selective listening and cut people from expressing their selves especially when those ideas can help build a better world 😊so we need to normalize and redefine the act of self expression stop shutting people, learn to listen if their ideas and opinions cannot be applied that's fine but at least listen and try to understand their point of view.I hope you guys understand what I'm trying to say and I'm not misquoted, this blog is not as detailed as i would have wanted it but i really hope you got the gist.If you have any area you didn't quite understand feel free to ask or you can do more research to understand better.

Yours Truly,

Tosin.